Here we are neck deep in the holiday season and once again it’s time to honor our individual holiday traditions. For some of us that means getting the tree and all its trimmings out, shop for gifts, bake seasonal goodies, send holiday cards, mail the party invites, attend the company party, plan the family party, hang the stockings, decorate the house, put up the lights and prepare our homes for family and friends. Phew, did I forget anything? Oh, I am sure you can add to my list, your personal traditions. Our lists are long this time of year. Many of us have traditions that go way back and it’s time to honor them. But, what if you don’t want to? Really you would rather shout “bah, humbug” then “happy holidays”. However, that just might earn you the nickname of Grinch.
The holiday blues or seasonal depressions are very real things. For some of us it is increasingly tough to embrace happy, loving and giving feelings this time of year when we are dealing with turmoil of our own. We may be struggling with family members, time issues or having financial difficulties to name a few. This time of year could be too painful because it reminds us of the loved ones we have lost. Continue reading →
Despair Anchors, what are they? They are negative and despairing statements that are perceived as truths by our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind will seek to verify and to fulfill that truth. Despairing anchors (some might call them negative labels) will occur from repetitive or severe negative thinking. “I am not smart enough”, “I will never succeed”, “I will never be good enough” sound like something you may have consciously said to yourself a time or two? None of us are exempt from them. I’m sure you can think of some now, they affect our lives in dramatic and damaging ways. Often times we have allowed others to assign despairing labels to us by unknowingly allowing them to be buried into our subconscious mind. Even worse we assign despair anchors to ourselves. When we believe these pessimistic statements, we anchor that negative statement to our Souls. It now becomes a part of our very own personal blue print, our DNA is now coated with it. Continue reading →
Imagine you are on a battlefield and you have just witnessed your comrade lose his leg from being hit with a cannon ball. You are now suddenly in crisis mode. Despite being hurt yourself you fortunately react quickly, you race to his side, pick him up and throw him over your shoulder. Through your own pain you carry him to triage which is close to two hundred yards away. Your hope is that the doctors that are there are ready to perform heroic measures and save your friends life. They do save his life but unfortunately they have to remove his leg in order to do so. This traditional approach to medicine was born on the battlefield and with good intention. Heroic measures were taken and thank heavens we have doctors that can save our lives when we experience a crisis. They have and continue to save the lives of many day after day.
However focusing on medicine and healing in this way has made many of us think we have to wait until we are in crisis before we go to the doctor. Continue reading →